Annoying Houseguest?!?

I live with my bf, and his cousin is staying with us, because his mom is in the process of looking for a house. She said he would only stay 2weeks so i agreed with it cuz when my bf had no where to go she opened her doors for him. BUT me and my bf are on a really low budget cuz his hrs at work are short right now and she know this. so she said she would be bringing food to our house so we wont have to worry about that.its been 2 months and he is still here!she has only brought food twice, she never calls to check on him, he only brought like 1 week worth of clothing, no toothbrush, no deodorant, no towels, and a pair of really old shoes! the first 2weeks it was ok, we bought him shoes, toothbrush, and deodorant. but now hes an annoyin jerk, who in a suddel way disrespects me,goes to sleep late,lost our house key, he broke my laptop, its gonna cost $800 to fix ,he didnt apologize. we cant confront him or his mom cuz theyll get but hurt and stop talking to us. what should we do!? HELP!!!

Annoying Houseguest?!?
So, wait a minute. Did his mom dump him onto you without even asking? That seems like the case. She%26#039;s not keeping her end of the bargain. Housing right now isn%26#039;t looking good and you might be stuck with him for a long while. Where is she staying? That%26#039;s what I want to know. I don%26#039;t know how she could leave her kid somewhere for 2 whole months. Is she on the road a lot or something because that looks very suspicious to me. I%26#039;d ask questions, and if he was wearing ratty shoes than obviously there%26#039;s some questions to be asked. Looks like momma is broke and she needs someone to pawn the kid off on someone for a while. It looks real fishy and maybe it%26#039;s better that the kid is with you guys than with her at the moment. Maybe there%26#039;s things going on that you don%26#039;t know about. Try talking to him about it.
Reply:kick him out.
Reply:You cant tell her without offending her. So get over that and call her up. You are not doormats. Tell her you have other guests coming in and its time for her to pick him up. If she wont, then take him to her anytime-even at work. That was nice that you bought him a toothbrush etc. Some people should not be parents and your husbands cousin%26#039;s mother is one of them
Reply:Help her find the new house asap...show an exaggerated interest and she will understand as well...
Reply:Calmly, call her and explain what is going on, but make sure you don%26#039;t say anything bad about her little angel. Tell her you understand she is having difficulty find a house, but you can only allow him to stay for another week. Make it to the point and as sweet as you can. If she gets mad, explain that you are sorry, but a couple must have more privacy than your place allows with another person there. If she doesn%26#039;t understand that something is wrong with her.
Reply:kick his butt outa there!
Reply:Tell your boyfriend it%26#039;s his cousin or you... his choice.. end of story. You should not have to put up with this crap.
Reply:They are users and will keep using until you say enough is enough! You have kept your bargain, they have not and will continue to use. If they do not talk to you again, then they need to open their eyes to see you tried to help, and is not really any loss on your part.


PS. Just read your additional info, it really does sound like social services should be contacted.
Reply:Tell her she needs to fix the laptop and start paying for her son to live or you%26#039;re taking her to court. She%26#039;s taking advantage of you and you%26#039;re only worried that she%26#039;ll stop talking to you? Sounds like you%26#039;re a doormat, just leting people walk all over you. DO something about it - people only treat you the way you let them.


Then again, when your bf lived with her, was he paying anything? If not, she could figure this is just evening things out. Maybe you should just ask her to take her son back and cut your losses.



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